Types of Dialogue: 1. Outer 2. Inner 3. Non-Verbal
Dialogue is the most sophisticated aspect of human communication. The word “dialogue” derives from two root words: “dia” which means “through” and “logos” which means “sharing the word”, or more particularly, the meaning of ‘The Word’.
David Bohm wrote, “dialogue is a special form of communication”. Its nature is exploratory, its meaning and its methods continue to unfold. No firm rules can be laid down for conducting a Dialogue because its essence is learning – not as the result of consuming a body of information or doctrine imparted by an authority, nor as a means of examining or criticizing a particular theory or programme, but rather as part of an unfolding process of creative participation between peers.
The InnerDialogue process introduces a Maieutic [Ma·you'·tic] method to guide the client’s attention into an area where they may not have been willing or able to look on their own. The most effective way to do this is by asking questions as opposed to the didactic method in which information is imparted through invasive question, explaining, or analyzing. The Maieutic method has been an important element of the Sufi, Siddha, Buddhist, and Rabbinical traditions as well as in Co-Active Coaching.
Most traditional counselors use the Didactic Method which is associated with Socrates who is said to have utilized it. When a practitioner (no matter how well trained or well intentioned) voices his/her “didactic” opinion about a client to that client, there are several dangers. The obvious one is that the counselor’s opinion might be incorrect in whole or in part. The other danger is that the counselor’s opinion might be correct, but the client will feel accused and reject or deny it anyway.
For over thousands of years, gestures were part of the rich tradition of non-verbal communication. These gestures were known in Sanskrit as mudras. Mudras means seal, mystery or symbol that give physical expression to an inner state. They consist of specific finger gestures that create a ‘shape’ in the hand(s) and each mudra has a precise and unique meaning. Finger gestures that ask the body powerful questions
The hand mudras used in the process are from a neuro-somatic approach developed by Dr. Solihin Thom called InnerDialogue. They act as communication tools, mediated through the somatosensory and somatomotor cortex. In simple terms, they appear to mirror the ‘shape’ of thoughts/ideas or aspects of consciousness – in a client's health and inner natures - genetic predispositions, feelings, habits, desires, beliefs, and more. It provides the body the necessary language to tell its ‘story' and reveal the whys and the wherefores as well as to know how to help a client.
Within the InnerDialogue process, the relationship between the client and myself are equal. We create ‘containers’: fields for deeper communication to allow for the logos to enter – a wisdom that descends and guides the process into areas of cellular memory, health, lifestyle and inner content. The agenda comes from the client.
Dialogue between client and facilitator helps:
- Identify the root source of symptoms, obstacles or concerns
- Create alternatives and more choices to resolutions
- Reach a satisfying state of closure
- Internalize a healthy image